In this emotional role reversal, I had to keep sacrificing my own childhood needs for attention, comfort, and guidance so that I could accommodate and care for my mother’s emotional needs. This is nothing short of emotional abuse.
"Growing up, I actually believed I had to lose weight to find someone and I honestly did put out a lot of energy in trying to lose weight. And I think that was the biggest mistake I made."~ Amena Aziz, Plus Size Fashion Blogger in an interview to Smashboard.
Patriarchy is constantly creating new ideals for girls/women to live up to and then pushing us to shame each other for not fitting the moulds perfectly or for rejecting them altogether. Ejecting these toxic ideals can make our friendships flourish!
Creating open lines of communication during counseling, including setting safety lines/terms when you need to recede, can help draw the borders you need when speaking about your experience. This reduces the stress of power differentials that can be a little overwhelming in therapeutic exchanges.
Why do some significant emotional events become disempowering and paralyse us in our everyday lives? How are these memories made and how do they affect us with triggers? What gives these events the emotional charge and what can help diffuse them so we can live healthier fuller lives?
Everything you know about yourself in the past, every desire you have for the future, is organized in a non-linear way here within your neurology. Here, time collapses except as a concept through which you code certain thoughts.
12 women stripped naked in a protest before the Kangla fort in Manipur on 11th July, 2004. These mothers or “Imas” also known as "Meira Paibis" or “women torch bearers” were protesting the rape and extra-judicial murder of 32 year old Thangjum Manorama.