Sanctions for surveillance of women’s bodies are often rationalised as being for their own safety and well-being, such as in this case. But surveillance not only fails to keep women safe, it produces its own kind of violence.
I feel freer when I refuse to be the infantile woman who needs to be emancipated by you. Sorry to disappoint you but I cannot be the delinquent misfit you want me to be either. You want me to fit easily into your boxed stereotypes but excuse me for not giving your hate a free chit.
Creating open lines of communication during counseling, including setting safety lines/terms when you need to recede, can help draw the borders you need when speaking about your experience. This reduces the stress of power differentials that can be a little overwhelming in therapeutic exchanges.
When deployed in a cynical, self-serving or naïvely well-intentioned way, identity politics devolves into tokenism where the individual takes precedence over the multitude and mass movements are eschewed for the soaring but empty rhetoric of hope and change.
Why do some significant emotional events become disempowering and paralyse us in our everyday lives? How are these memories made and how do they affect us with triggers? What gives these events the emotional charge and what can help diffuse them so we can live healthier fuller lives?